Spring has finally sprung, which means diaries are quickly filling up with all the social gatherings put off during the winter months. Walks in the park with loved ones scheduled, Sunday roasts at the pub with family booked, a night at the local bar with friends being discussed in the group chat.
It’s all happening all of a sudden.
But, if you have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, you may find yourself watching your once vibrant social life from the sidelines.
That in itself can feel incredibly isolating and lonely. Coupled with symptoms like post-exertional malaise, cognitive difficulties and body pain, you may be wondering how on earth you’ll ever maintain any sort of social life again.
Well, it may be challenging, but it’s certainly not impossible.
Here are my top tips for integrating CFS-friendly socialising into your life.
Set Realistic Expectations
First things first, be realistic about your condition. It exists, it limits, but it doesn’t have to stop you if you go about it the right way.
When it comes to socialising, manage your expectations. While you may not be able to dance on the bar at all hours anymore, you can spend an hour or two having a quiet drink with close friends. While you may not be able to sign up for the local park run with your family, you can plan a simple park picnic instead.
Knowing your limits and preparing yourself for a different – but still valuable and enjoyable – social life is a great place to start.
Self-Care Comes First
Maintaining a social life when you have chronic fatigue syndrome will rely on your ability to prioritise self-care. By managing your condition in the best way possible, i.e. establishing a sleep schedule that works for you, resting when you need to, and not pushing your limits, you’re more likely to be able to engage in social activities as and when you want to.
Look after yourself first, socialise second.
Educate Friends and Family
Educating your family and friends about your condition is one of the best things you can do when it comes to maintaining your social life. The more your loved ones understand your condition and its limitations, the more they’ll be able to accommodate your needs.
You’ll find that people will be more than happy to plan social events that work around your CFS when they understand exactly what it is you need from them.
Plan Gentle Activities
Socialising doesn’t have to be loud, long or rowdy. It can be something as simple as a cup of tea in the garden with a close friend. Or an evening on the sofa watching films together. Or even just a quick phone call. When it comes to maintaining a social life with CFS, plan gentle activities that you can enjoy without exacerbating your symptoms too much.
CFS Support with Rolling with the Glen
Your social life is just that. Yours. The focus shouldn’t be on what you do, or what you can’t do, but on the connections you have with those who mean the most to you. Maintain that, and you’ll be about as sociable as they come.
For more support in managing your condition, please do not hesitate to get in touch.
